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Transform Your Thinking: Creating Your Reality,What’s Really Real
Posted On: October 17, 2008Posted In: Success Mindset, Video Blogging
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Be Realistic About Your Goals
Sum BEE!!! I had issues with my video rendering this morning, and couldn’t really do anything during the day at work, so I’m getting this post out late. Not to worry, you’ll have all weekend to ponder it! Now, let’s get into it.
Last week, we talked about transforming your thinking in order to help you reach success. The topic last week was How Your Thoughts Affect Your Success and it seemed to go over well. This is a part of my life/business I have been using in the background and it was workin like a sum bee so I was ready to share it.
But, not everyone thought it was that great, and a few had some different opinions, which I love! What was so dope about it, the very comments proved the point I was trying to make. One of our community members had a comment about staying realistic so that your goals aren’t too hard to reach.
I understood what he was tring to say, fortunately, this provided a real live example of how our thoughts, pardigms, and social conditioning have a huge impact on what we perceive as possibility.
Your Reality Is What You See
I know some of you may not feel me….yet, but I know there are others that do. Your future, your reality, it’s what you make it! Just like the Wright Brothers and their plane, or any of the other various visions that folks had, you have to believe it. Not only that, you have to put forth the actions so as to move towards that vision.
I’ve really been learning, using, and applying the concept of lifestyle design. Basically, this means, instead of letting your work or occupation determine your lifestyle, you plan or envision the lifestyle you want, then you work towards making sure your business or occupation lines up with that vision!
Stephen Pierce has been a huge impact on me, and through him I have been introduced to many other teachers and resources. One of my buddies Mark Mason introduced me to the folks over at Internet Business Mastery a few weeks back…and I was hooked. They have a free audio that talks about this very thing, it’s called the 3 pillars to designing the ultimate internet lifestyle.
Internet Marketing Provides Freedom
The bottom line is, we are all here for one thing, FREEDOM. Sure, money may be a part of that, but the ultimate reason we want to do this stuff is for freedom. Freedom to do what we chose, freedom to live where we want, freedom to live our lives and spend time with out family. If you have the proper mindset, you know your goals and nothing will deter you.
If you don’t change your mind, you’ll continue to fall victim to the same conditioning. I don’t really care what the naysayers have to say on the matter, I have experienced and I am experiencing this very thing. I also have plenty of friends who understand and apply this knowledge and are experiencing it as well.
I know you got something to say, so spit that junk out and let me know what’s on your mind. I’ll admit, I used to be one of those that thought this was just “fluffy sammich bread” but the more I apply, and the more I learn, the more I see how real it is.
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October 17th, 2008 at 9:43 pm
That’s why there aren’t 100 Disney world and people keep whining about the fact they are unhappy with what they do and should have started Disney World themselves. That’s also why there aren’t 100 Google and so on. Some will stand out because they believe in something really hard, no matter what other people say.
Patience, Passion and Dreams.
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Ryan McLean (38 comments) Reply:
October 17th, 2008 at 10:33 pm
This is an awesome comment. So true…that is why there is only one Google…they believed in it and did everything to make it happen
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Normal Joe (2055 comments) Reply:
October 18th, 2008 at 9:47 am
Oh you hit that on the head Ben! It’s so true, thing is, staying positive is really different in this society, because there is so much conditioning, but you better believe the successful understand and apply this. If you know there’s no other option for you…you’ll be in perpetual motion towards your goals and will pick up other smaller goals and prizes along the way to your destination, which will be constantly evolving.
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October 17th, 2008 at 9:45 pm
Damn that, GET YOUR HOPES UP!!! Transform your mind, son!
“That’s not a goal, that’s a ceiling.” – Normal Joe
Joe, you might get into my great quote library with that, son.
Seriously, I think this line of thinking is on point. What you must come to grips with if you are going to be successful in this business or any business is the FACT that the majority of people are negative and will not accomplish much in this life.
I know it doesn’t sound like, but this is not a knock on them. It just is what it is. What you have to do is be ready, willing, and able to separate yourself from that madness. Separate yourself with your thinking first, then your actions.
Why in this order? Because your actions are going to be controlled by your thinking. Therefore, if you think something is impossible and cannot be done, then you won’t take the necessary action to complete the task or reach the goal.
However, if you think that not only can it be done, but you can do it in half the time, then you will work harder to make it happen. This is create a situation that you are forced to use your ingenuity and creative forces to make a way when only a wall was in front of you.
I feel you, Joe. I could type forever about this, son…, but I will shut it down and see what the Sammichites have to say about this one.
Good stuff, Sammich Man!!!
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Ryan McLean (38 comments) Reply:
October 17th, 2008 at 11:43 pm
Freddie – What is this about your great quote library?
how can we get into it?
I have a quote in my latest post which is rather amazing…you should add it to your library
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Normal Joe (2055 comments) Reply:
October 18th, 2008 at 9:45 am
You got it man! I already know where you stand son! Feel free to unleash a whole blog post in my comments man lol, I love it dude! You are so right man, it’s all about the mind, nothing that has ever been made or that exists started without a thought first!
Everything starts in the mind man!
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October 17th, 2008 at 9:48 pm
LOL@ calling me the video addict. You know what’s funny? I had already watched the video on Viddler before the post came. That’s how big of a fan I am of The Sammich Man!
Dude, you’ve said most of it already and I actually don’t have much to add because I’m already on the same page. In the past, I’ve actually split from several “friends” who were bringing me down mentally because of their negativity. It’s unfortunate, but some peeps will literally suck the success out of you if you let them.
Once I got my mind right and had (for the most part) other like-minded peeps around me, things started to happen.
There will always be ups and downs, but if you don’t believe in reaching your goals and dreams, then you’ve already made sure that they won’t happen.
I’m not the type to try to “convince” people of anything though. I’ll tell them once and if I’m hit with a wall of “ifs, ands, buts, and negativity” then I’d rather just talk about music and leave life, success, and internet marketing out of the equation.
One point to make though. Even if you NEVER reach your “ultimate goal”, wouldn’t life be that much more exciting “trying to reach it”, rather than giving up on it before you gave it a chance?
Great post dude.
Cheers!
Jay
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Normal Joe (2055 comments) Reply:
October 18th, 2008 at 9:44 am
Dude, you already know man…you’ve had insight into this stuff way before me, and you’ve known that I was getting ready to unleash it, so I know you already got it on lock. It’s just amazing man, I see it working so much, that it’s just awesome. What your mind ponders on or constantly things about, that’s what will happen, that’s what you’ll be.
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October 17th, 2008 at 10:12 pm
Freedom is defiately the reason I am online. And also i completely love writing and one day I want to move from the MMO niche and become a christian writer. I am learning the skills now to do that.
Infact I just released my first ebook “Make Money Commenting”
Hopefully a few sales of this book and when I create more books then I will start getting more freedom because at the moment I have less than I want. Because I have to work to get the cashflow going and i am working online also
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Normal Joe (2055 comments) Reply:
October 18th, 2008 at 9:43 am
That’s cool dude, you can do it if that’s where your heart is at! Keep working it man, have a clear goal in mind and then constantly do the things you need to do to make it there.
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October 17th, 2008 at 11:12 pm
Completely agree on all your points Mr. Joe. The unrealistic goal is a much better way to go. If you settle for the realistic…it holds you back from working yourself as hard as you need to to reach something amazing!
Loved this post man…
Speaking of the Unhappy people with “this and that” occurring with their life etc. etc. Holly posted a great reality check you should check out today Joe.
It certainly puts things in perspective for some people I would imagine…Great post bud..chat soon.
Davin
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Normal Joe (2055 comments) Reply:
October 18th, 2008 at 9:41 am
Thanks Davin! Yeah man, it’s no fun shooting for what’s “realistic” those are just limits people have or put on other people.
I saw Holly’s post, have to get over and read it though.
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October 18th, 2008 at 7:05 am
Dead right Joe !! The biggest problem that is kinda goes like this. I have therefore I am, where instead it really should be I think therefore I am. All of us to a greater or lessor extent are out in the world trying to be “something” which usually equates to an external opinion idea, even an object. If it isnt in you you then it isnt you. Know what I mean? I dont think that the goal of a good and happy life is to be something, it should be to find out and become more of you realy are !!
I think you’re onto something with this conditioning line of thought dude!!
which is the whole tale told in IM as a whole. Buy this or that product and you’ll BE just like the pretty images on the sales page.
Ive been thinking about doing an ego marketing post over the past little while, because I feel that this is what marketing plays into and preys upon.
In so many ways you’re not buying a product but identity enhancers. Its like some kind of voodoo black magic or something. Some how or another when someone buys something just by the act of acquiring it you become like the image portrayed on the cover or sales page, or more like “THEM”. Expensive designer label are probably the best example I can think of, the more expensive it is the more “exclusive” it is. And nobody wants to be humdrum and mundane and or regular. They want to be important and exclusive and so spend their way to achieve this. Its pretty crazy really, or is it me?
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Normal Joe (2055 comments) Reply:
October 18th, 2008 at 9:40 am
Yeah man…that’s what folks need to realize with anything that’s being sold. Get to the bottom of why you or other people are buying. You not buying that object, you’re buying the result that object gives or moves you towards.
I don’t buy anything I buy online just because I want to learn about it, I don’t find any value in a digital book at all….but I know I want the results I can find in it! I know all the books, tools, and programs can bring me closer to my desired lifestyle my result…FREEDOM.
That’s why I buy anything related to IM, that’s the truth, and real marketers know this, so they don’t focus on the product, the focus on the results! (Sorry, I’ve really been getting into copywriting and salesmanship and the psychology behind why people buy)
You’re right Shane man, you know all about it dude.
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October 18th, 2008 at 9:20 am
Joe, this post ROCKS. You hit it right on the head, man. SMACK!
Mark
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Normal Joe (2055 comments) Reply:
October 18th, 2008 at 9:33 am
Dude, I knew you’d love it man! Glad you checked it out!
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October 18th, 2008 at 1:36 pm
Your reality can be thought of as what you see, and so if one envisions a set of events happening in a certain way, they might as well turn out that way. The items we see around us are the realities of others having been implemented.
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Normal Joe (2055 comments) Reply:
October 18th, 2008 at 6:27 pm
Welcome to the site Armen! You are right man, everything that’s been made started with someones dream or vision.
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October 19th, 2008 at 1:41 am
Right now my work does predict my lifestyle and I know I need to change that as I can. Thanks for an awesome post
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Normal Joe (2055 comments) Reply:
October 21st, 2008 at 12:47 pm
Glad you liked it man, we are all working to change it man! We’ve all been going along with the status quo, but the fact that we are here, in this blogsphere trying to change it, shows we’re looking for something more!
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October 19th, 2008 at 8:53 am
Hey there Joe I actually mention you in my last post. I’m not sure if I am being lazy or not but I am seemingly having a hard time with some of these plugins. It is maybe not so much a case of being lazy but knowing exactly how long I should spend mucking about trying to get them to work when I could be doing something more fruitful.
I would like to put a link to to something on my site that is very much on the same vane as that which you are talking about there. Not sure if people will think that I am a lunatic but… it kind of goes a bit surreal and crazy. Stuff about how we all individually create our own universe/ existence.
Oh and while I am here- why is it that my pic no longer appears on peoples site anymore??
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Normal Joe (2055 comments) Reply:
October 21st, 2008 at 12:46 pm
Where’s the link! Lol, I’ll have to checkout the post since you’re talkin trash on me…thought we were homies lol. Plugins can drive you batty man! I’ve been there.
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October 19th, 2008 at 8:54 am
OMG! this is getting annoying now! NO picture and NO comment luv!!! what the hell am I doing wrong?
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Normal Joe (2055 comments) Reply:
October 21st, 2008 at 12:45 pm
go over to gravatar.com, I switched over to them for the avatars.
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October 19th, 2008 at 10:50 am
Joe – a lot of what you said here really hit home for me. Unfortunately, my job DOES dictate my life right now. But…you’re right about the freedom thing…that’s EXACTLY why I want to be an internet marketer…I am too frustrated with my job dictating my life instead of the other way around. My job should be something that I deal with for a period of time throughout the day, not something that I hope I can get away from for a period of time throughout the day.
Loved the post, man!
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Normal Joe (2055 comments) Reply:
October 21st, 2008 at 12:45 pm
Bro, you are NOT alone! We’ve all been taught mostly the same things. More work=more money. If you’re not working hard, it’s not worth it…blah, blah, blah! lol
I love what you said man “My job should be something that I deal with for a period of time throughout the day, not something that I hope I can get away from for a period of time throughout the day”
that’s the sweetness right there!
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October 21st, 2008 at 10:49 am
Ah freedom, that is indeed what it’s all about. I’m still a long way off but if I could earn about 10x I would be mostly free, and about 15x I would be really free and at 20x I would be totally off the hook and living large free. Goals!
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Normal Joe (2055 comments) Reply:
October 21st, 2008 at 12:43 pm
You got it man! Your goals will always grow, just keep focused on them and be grateful for the little things you accomplish!
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October 21st, 2008 at 12:40 pm
Joe,
Great post. I like to debate and you have covered all the bases here which makes if very difficult to take the opposite side. I enjoyed it very much.
Adam
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Normal Joe (2055 comments) Reply:
October 21st, 2008 at 12:43 pm
Adam, I think we are much alike in that aspece (debate) which is why I always think at things from both sides lol. Glad you liked it man!
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October 21st, 2008 at 7:20 pm
This is a great subject. I have to say that a lot of bloggers kind of set their goals way to high and then are disappointed when their blog results are not the same as the goals they set. Making sure to set the right goals and defining what success means to you is the way to go. Once you define what success is, then strive to achieve that goal and thats what will help you be better not only in your business but in life as well. Great post, I liked the video, nice and casual as usual with the JOE!
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Normal Joe (2055 comments) Reply:
October 22nd, 2008 at 7:39 am
I don’t believe in setting goals too high! As long as you cherish all the smaller ones on the way! But you’re right man, success isn’t always money, I say this all the time. Success looks different for everyone, as long as you know what it is for you and have the proper mindset to pursue it, it’s all good!
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November 6th, 2008 at 4:26 pm
Excellent post, Joe. People find it so much easier to say “I can’t” than “I can”, don’t you think? They’ll find plenty of reasons it’s not achievable when in fact the main reason is their own mindset. Then they’re only too willing to spread their negativity around instead of looking in the mirror as to why their life’s not the way they want it to be. You tell ‘em, Joe!
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Normal Joe (2055 comments) Reply:
November 9th, 2008 at 2:30 pm
Yeah, that’s what up Salwa. So many find it easy to say they can’t. For most it’s the first thing that comes to mind. We haven’t been trained for thinking outside of the box. Society around most of us is all about the status quo and doing what everyone else is doing. When you start challenging all you’ve grown to know…especially financially, it becomes a battle.
If you’ve never seen 15k a month, or even thought it was possible….then doing what it takes to get there is not only about taking the right actions, but having the mental capacity to overcome the strong barriers around your thought process.
glad you liked the post!
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April 4th, 2009 at 5:36 pm
Great post and good comments by everyone. I really never thought of the idea of visioning your life and then letting your work follow that. Interesting perspective. Hard to add anything else, other than to say don’t let your own negativity and doubt get to you and realize most people wan’t you to fail out jealousy.
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Normal Joe (2055 comments) Reply:
April 4th, 2009 at 5:45 pm
It’s definitely the best way to go, that way, you have a clear goal to work towards and even when you hit bumps in the road, you still know where you are going.
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June 17th, 2009 at 4:02 am
I am feeling this! This is a great post and really makes you think, its so true that if you believe in yourself you can make your reality what you want.
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Normal Joe (2055 comments) Reply:
June 17th, 2009 at 6:54 am
Yeah, it’s the straight up truth man!
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